Throughout my interactions with thousands of clients, I have observed many people who appear frozen or stuck in certain stages or areas of their lives. These included unfulfilling relationships, jobs, careers, or personal lives. On the surface, it would first seem as if their lack of motivation was the likely cause of their stuckness. However, when I would look closer, I frequently recognized that they were frozen because of fear which had stemmed from their lack of confidence. When we allow the fear of failure to have a place in our lives, we are not leaving much room for confidence; we get paralyzed with fear and get stuck. While confidence gives us the courage to move forward, fear stops us from doing so. Fear freezes our energy and paralyzes our courage.
I have also observed that some people follow the same pattern of behaviors over and over and get the same set of unwanted results and cannot break this cycle. This again may include unfulfilling relationships, jobs, careers, or personal lives. When people live their lives on auto-piolet they are afraid of change and so get the same unwanted results over and over. This is because they are afraid of change and don’t have the courage to make a change; again due to a lack of confidence since courage comes from confidence. When you don’t take the risk to take action for change, you are not choosing to grow in your life. When there is no growth there wouldn’t be any room for betterment and progress. When you don’t have progress, you may feel unfulfilled, depressed, and defeated. Lack of self-confidence can create depression and vice-versa. Confidence stems from realizing that you are more significant than your doubts and worries. Lack of confidence is the hole that drains the joy from your life and relationships (personal, professional, and social). Fear break us to pieces. Fear is the result of a lack of faith in yourself, which can
project to the outside world as self-doubt. Lack of confidence is the result of not knowing what you can do.
A lack of confidence is akin to welcoming fear. Being stuck comes from being fueled by fear. When there is room in you for fear, it gradually becomes the chief commander of your life. If you let fear get the best of you, your life becomes a series of unfortunate events. Fear creates its own energy as well as a host of missed opportunities.
When you don’t take the risk of taking action, you are not aware of your abilities. Your experience teaches you and at the same time reveals who you are. People differ in how they respond to failure. If you fall on the way to your destination and get up again, you learn by experience. This is the root of practical knowledge that shapes your expertise. Lack of expertise is the result of a lack of doing something new or a lack of experience. When you lack confidence in yourself, you cannot have confidence in anybody else. This lack of confidence might also result in being critical and impulsive in your relationships.
Confidence and happiness are intercorrelated; when you are confident you are happy. If you want to change and grow and don’t want to feel stuck and get the same unwanted results, read 12 KEY STEPS TO BUILD HIGH CONFIDENCE. THE MASTER KEY TO YOUR POWER.
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Giti Caravan holds a BA in Clinical Psychology and Masters in Counselling, with more than 20 certifications of training in new-age and cutting-edge approaches to training. She is a Member of the Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association, the American Board of Hypnotherapy, the American Board of NLP Coaches, and the American Board of Timeline Therapy. To contact her call (306) 242-6688 in Saskatoon, email address firstname.lastname@example.org.
For more information about her Counselling and Psychotherapy Services, Intervention Services, Hypnotherapy Treatments, Training and Coaching Services, please visit www.caravancounselling.com